Without realizing it, self-talk impacts our self-worth more than damaging words from others. Self-kindness starts and ends with you.
A phrase I have heard describes the human condition as “the walking wounded.” Stop for a moment to consider the impact of this statement.
Beneath the facade, we display outwardly resides a variety of wounds hidden inwardly. These wounds may have stolen our self-worth, our confidence, and even our hope for the future.
Those of us battling depression and anxiety have learned to fight the good fight. And because of our on-going battles, we need more kindness towards ourselves.
Delivering self-kindness is something we can all improve on.
For example:
- Done something foolish and then called yourself an idiot or another harsh name?
- Doubted your capacity to complete a task because your self-talk said you were not bright enough?
- Blaming yourself for circumstances beyond your control?
If you answered “yes” to these questions, I encourage you to start treating yourself with a higher degree of kindness than you are at the present time.
Life can be hard. It is time to become easier on yourself. Hold yourself accountable. Start using forgiving and encouraging words versus harsh and judging words when you speak about yourself either inwardly or outwardly.
Remember: Self-kindness begins and ends with you!
Reflection Question
What will it take for you to be kinder to yourself?
About the Author
Carol A. Kivler is a nationally recognized mental health speaker, international executive coach/trainer, and author. Most importantly, she is a passionate consumer advocate for mental health. Carol is available for speaking engagements in the U.S and internationally. Email or call Carol at (609) 882-8988.
