One thing people with mental health disorders deal with is “stinking thinking.” Mental illnesses have ways of holding consumers hostage in their heads as they ruminate non-stop over-exaggerated and doubtful thoughts.
For those who have never dealt with this issue, it is hard to imagine the constant flux of paralyzing fear these thoughts can bring. However, stinking thinking is not reality.
During each of my four episodes of depression, I had exaggerated thinking. I believed that I would be penniless, lose my home, and have no food to feed my children. Further, I doubted my ability to teach a class I had taught for years. I felt like an imposter in front of my students. Nothing could have been further from the truth. Yet I was convinced these thoughts were the case.
When I reflect back, I recall it took healthcare professionals, family, and friends to remind me that it was the illness-causing me to have those thoughts. These individuals did their best to convince me that I didn’t have to believe those thoughts. And they encouraged me to acknowledge and recognize those feelings as symptoms of my illness. Once I did so, I found myself released from much of the fear and worry those views brought about.
Moreover, I have heard many other consumers talk about their own skewed thinking and how it had overwhelmed them at times. Therefore, if you find yourself struggling with “stinking thinking,” take heed to put those thoughts into perspective.
First, remind yourself the views are not your reality but a symptom of your illness.
Second, reground yourself by seeking others to help you refocus your thoughts to what is real. Next, be kinder and patient with yourself as you move through your episode.
And finally, remember that recovery is a journey that takes place one step at a time.
Reflection Question
Who can help you through your own “stinking thinking?”
About the Author
Carol A. Kivler is a nationally recognized mental health speaker, international executive coach/trainer, and author. Most importantly, she is a passionate consumer advocate for mental health. Carol is available for speaking engagements in the U.S and internationally. Email or call Carol at (609) 882-8988.
